Questions

I've been married for almost six years.  In the last year, the baby questions have really picked up.  When are you going to have a baby?  Why don't you have a baby?  You don't have children yet?   I didn't realize that when you get 'a certain age' that your value in life stems from your ability to procreate.

My husband is visiting friends this weekend in a city we lived in for five years.  He was bombarded with questions about our childless state - some from people he hadn't seen in years.  While he thought nothing much about it, I see it differently.  I've never asked someone why they don't have children, especially someone I only know casually and haven't seen in years.  Is that person actually expecting us to tell them about infertility?  Really?  I once read a post that said don't tell anyone about your infertility unless you're willing for that person to wipe your ass.  I would have to agree.  Telling people is letting them into a very personal space of your life.

I've told a few friends and my mom that we're having trouble.  I don't tell them all the details because frankly, I never want my mom or friends to ask, "It's cycle day 10, how's it going?" or the dreaded, "Are you pregnant?"  Also, I think if you haven't been through this (or are currently going through it), you can't understand.  Most people get pregnant easily.  Hard to realize, but it's true.

IVF #1 starts for us in just a few days.  Wish us luck!